Compatibility for Myers Briggs Types Part 1
When it comes to the compatibility of the Myers Briggs types, there are lots of contradictory theories out there and each of them claims to have found the right fomula. Some of them say that the compatibility is higher as the types are more similar, others sustain the contrary, that the best relationships happen between opposite typologies.
In order to shed some light on the matter, I’ve decided to present every one of them in my posts and let you decide for yourself which one is the most accurate.
For more on MB compatibility, also read:
Compatibility for Myers Briggs Types Part 2
Incompatibility of Myers Briggs Types
Identical types compatibility
One of the most reasonable explanation for good compatibility is the similarity of the people involved. Although it may sound exciting to fall in love with someone who is very different from yourself, experience has proven that these relationships hardly ever pass the test of time, and soon enough the lack of mutual understanding will cause frustration and disappointment on both sides.
With this idea in mind, compatibility between the types will sound something like that:
ENTP most compatible with: ENTP / least compatible with: ISFJ
ENTJ most compatible with: ENTJ / least compatible with: ISFP
ENFP most compatible with: ENFP / least compatible with: ISTJ
ENFJ most compatible with: ENFJ / least compatible with: ISTP
ESTP most compatible with: ESTP / least compatible with: INFJ
ESTJ most compatible with: ESTJ / least compatible with: INFP
ESFP most compatible with: ESFP / least compatible with: INTJ
ESFJ most compatible with: ESFJ / least compatible with: INTP
INTP most compatible with: INTP / least compatible with: ESFJ
INTJ most compatible with: INTJ / least compatible with: ESFP
INFP most compatible with: INFP / least compatible with: ESTJ
INFJ most compatible with: INFJ / least compatible with: ESTP
ISTP most compatible with: ISTP / least compatible with: ENFJ
ISTJ most compatible with: ISTJ / least compatible with: ENFP
ISFP most compatible with: ISFP / least compatible with: ENTJ
ISFJ most compatible with: ISFJ / least compatible with: ENTP
But where’s the fun in that?
Opposite types compatibility (Kersey)
To add more salt and pepper to the whole relationship thing, some experts have decided to go for the ‘opposites attract’ explanation, which in my opinion is mainly based on exactly that: attraction. As for true compatibility, who knows? Infatuation was never a solid ground for a long-term engagement.
ENTP most compatible with: ISFJ
ENTJ most compatible with: ISFP
ENFP most compatible with: ISTJ
ENFJ most compatible with: ISTP
ESTP most compatible with: INFJ
ESTJ most compatible with: INFP
ESFP most compatible with: INTJ
ESFJ most compatible with: INTP
INTP most compatible with: ESFJ
INTJ most compatible with: ESFP
INFP most compatible with: ESTJ
INFJ most compatible with: ESTP
ISTP most compatible with: ENFJ
ISTJ most compatible with: ENFP
ISFP most compatible with: ENTJ
ISFJ most compatible with: ENTP
Main cognitive function compatibility
An interesting view on Jungian compatibility suggests that types with inverse main cognitive functions are best suited for each other. Therefore if you’re a Ti dominant, you probably should be looking for a Te dominant to share your life with, and so on.
ENTP (main function Ne) most compatible with: INTJ, INFJ
ENTJ (main function Te) most compatible with: INTP, ISTP
ENFP (main function Ne) most compatible with: INFJ, INTJ
ENFJ (main function Fe) most compatible with: INFP, ISFP
ESTP (main function Se) most compatible with: ISTJ, ISFJ
ESTJ (main function Te) most compatible with: ISTP, INTP
ESFP (main function Se) most compatible with: ISFJ, ISTJ
ESFJ (main function Fe) most compatible with: ISFP, INFP
INTP (main function Ti) most compatible with: ENTJ, ESTJ
INTJ (main function Ni) most compatible with: ENTP, ENFP
INFP (main function Fi) most compatible with: ENFJ, ESFJ
INFJ (main function Ni) most compatible with: ENFP, ENTP
ISTP (main function Ti) most compatible with: ESTJ, ENTJ
ISTJ (main function Si) most compatible with: ESTP, ESFP
ISFP (main function Fi) most compatible with: ESFJ, ENFJ
ISFJ (main function Si) most compatible with: ESFP, ESTP
Secondary function compatibility
Actually this theory was developed by me and it’s based on Lenore Thomson’s ideas from her book “Personality Type: An Owner’s Manual” (which, by the way, is a great read). Lenore claims that real balance within a type is obtained when we’re able to use and develop our secondary function well enough – without a properly working secondary function, we are trapped, either in our inner subjective worlds (introverted types) or in our outer, objective environment (extroverted types). We need to develop both of these perspectives in order to have a healthy psychological life, and that’s exactly what our second function can help us do.
This compatibilty system is focused on how well the 2nd function of each partner’s type is balanced by the relationship.
ENTJ ( 2nd function Ni) most compatible with: INTJ, INFJ, ISTJ
/ least compatible with : ESTP, ESFP, ENFP
ENTP (2nd function Ti) most compatible with: INTP, ISTP, INFP
/ least compatible with : ESFJ, ENFJ, ESTJ
ENFJ (2nd function Ni) most compatible with: INFJ, INTJ, ISFJ
/ least compatible with : ESTP, ESFP, ENTP
ENFP (2nd function Fi) most compatible with: INFP, ISFP, INTP
/ least compatible with : ESTJ, ENTJ,ESFJ
ESTJ (2nd function Si) most compatible with: ISTJ, ISFJ, INTJ
/ least compatible with : ENTP, ENFP, ESFP
ESTP (2nd function Ti) most compatible with: ISTP, INTP, ISFP
/ least compatible with : ESFJ, ENFJ, ENTJ
ESFJ (2nd function Si) most compatible with: ISTJ, ISFJ, INFJ
/ least compatible with : ENTP, ENFP, ESTP
ESFP (2nd function Fi) most compatible with: ISFP, INFP, ISTP
/ least compatible with : ESTJ, ENTJ, ENFJ
INTJ (2nd function Te) most compatible with: ENTJ, ESTJ, ENFJ
/ least compatible with : ISFP, INFP, ISTP
INTP (2nd function Ne) most compatible with: ENTP, ENFP, ESTP
/ least compatible with : ISTJ, ISFJ, INFJ
INFJ (2nd function Fe) most compatible with: ENFJ, ESFJ, ENTJ
/ least compatible with : INTP, ISTP, ISFP
INFP (2nd function Ne) most compatible with: ENFP, ENTP, ESFP
/ least compatible with : ISTJ, ISFJ, INTJ
ISTJ (2nd function Te) most compatible with: ENTJ, ESTJ, ESFJ
/ least compatible with : INFP, ISFP, INTP
ISTP (2nd function Se) most compatible with: ESTP, ESFP, ENTP
/ least compatible with : INTJ, INFJ, ISFJ
ISFJ (2nd function Fe) most compatible with: ENFJ, ESFJ, ESTJ
/ least compatible with : INTP, ISTP, INFP
ISFP (2nd function Se) most compatible with: ESTP, ESFP, ENFP
/ least compatible with : INTJ, INFJ, ISTJ
For more detailed info on Myers Briggs compatibility, here are some good books you can try:
Just Your Type: Create the Relationship You've Always Wanted Using the Secrets of Personality Type
Lovetypes: Discover Your Romantic Style And Find Your Soul Mate
16 Ways to Love Your Lover
Wired for Conflict: The Role of Personality in Resolving Differences
Marriage Types
The Intimacy Factor: How Your Personality and Your Past Affect Your Ability to Love and be Loved
Intimacy and Type: A Practical Guide for Improving Relationships for Couples and Counselors
In order to shed some light on the matter, I’ve decided to present every one of them in my posts and let you decide for yourself which one is the most accurate.
For more on MB compatibility, also read:
Compatibility for Myers Briggs Types Part 2
Incompatibility of Myers Briggs Types
Identical types compatibility
One of the most reasonable explanation for good compatibility is the similarity of the people involved. Although it may sound exciting to fall in love with someone who is very different from yourself, experience has proven that these relationships hardly ever pass the test of time, and soon enough the lack of mutual understanding will cause frustration and disappointment on both sides.
With this idea in mind, compatibility between the types will sound something like that:
ENTP most compatible with: ENTP / least compatible with: ISFJ
ENTJ most compatible with: ENTJ / least compatible with: ISFP
ENFP most compatible with: ENFP / least compatible with: ISTJ
ENFJ most compatible with: ENFJ / least compatible with: ISTP
ESTP most compatible with: ESTP / least compatible with: INFJ
ESTJ most compatible with: ESTJ / least compatible with: INFP
ESFP most compatible with: ESFP / least compatible with: INTJ
ESFJ most compatible with: ESFJ / least compatible with: INTP
INTP most compatible with: INTP / least compatible with: ESFJ
INTJ most compatible with: INTJ / least compatible with: ESFP
INFP most compatible with: INFP / least compatible with: ESTJ
INFJ most compatible with: INFJ / least compatible with: ESTP
ISTP most compatible with: ISTP / least compatible with: ENFJ
ISTJ most compatible with: ISTJ / least compatible with: ENFP
ISFP most compatible with: ISFP / least compatible with: ENTJ
ISFJ most compatible with: ISFJ / least compatible with: ENTP
But where’s the fun in that?
Opposite types compatibility (Kersey)
To add more salt and pepper to the whole relationship thing, some experts have decided to go for the ‘opposites attract’ explanation, which in my opinion is mainly based on exactly that: attraction. As for true compatibility, who knows? Infatuation was never a solid ground for a long-term engagement.
ENTP most compatible with: ISFJ
ENTJ most compatible with: ISFP
ENFP most compatible with: ISTJ
ENFJ most compatible with: ISTP
ESTP most compatible with: INFJ
ESTJ most compatible with: INFP
ESFP most compatible with: INTJ
ESFJ most compatible with: INTP
INTP most compatible with: ESFJ
INTJ most compatible with: ESFP
INFP most compatible with: ESTJ
INFJ most compatible with: ESTP
ISTP most compatible with: ENFJ
ISTJ most compatible with: ENFP
ISFP most compatible with: ENTJ
ISFJ most compatible with: ENTP
Main cognitive function compatibility
An interesting view on Jungian compatibility suggests that types with inverse main cognitive functions are best suited for each other. Therefore if you’re a Ti dominant, you probably should be looking for a Te dominant to share your life with, and so on.
ENTP (main function Ne) most compatible with: INTJ, INFJ
ENTJ (main function Te) most compatible with: INTP, ISTP
ENFP (main function Ne) most compatible with: INFJ, INTJ
ENFJ (main function Fe) most compatible with: INFP, ISFP
ESTP (main function Se) most compatible with: ISTJ, ISFJ
ESTJ (main function Te) most compatible with: ISTP, INTP
ESFP (main function Se) most compatible with: ISFJ, ISTJ
ESFJ (main function Fe) most compatible with: ISFP, INFP
INTP (main function Ti) most compatible with: ENTJ, ESTJ
INTJ (main function Ni) most compatible with: ENTP, ENFP
INFP (main function Fi) most compatible with: ENFJ, ESFJ
INFJ (main function Ni) most compatible with: ENFP, ENTP
ISTP (main function Ti) most compatible with: ESTJ, ENTJ
ISTJ (main function Si) most compatible with: ESTP, ESFP
ISFP (main function Fi) most compatible with: ESFJ, ENFJ
ISFJ (main function Si) most compatible with: ESFP, ESTP
Secondary function compatibility
Actually this theory was developed by me and it’s based on Lenore Thomson’s ideas from her book “Personality Type: An Owner’s Manual” (which, by the way, is a great read). Lenore claims that real balance within a type is obtained when we’re able to use and develop our secondary function well enough – without a properly working secondary function, we are trapped, either in our inner subjective worlds (introverted types) or in our outer, objective environment (extroverted types). We need to develop both of these perspectives in order to have a healthy psychological life, and that’s exactly what our second function can help us do.
This compatibilty system is focused on how well the 2nd function of each partner’s type is balanced by the relationship.
ENTJ ( 2nd function Ni) most compatible with: INTJ, INFJ, ISTJ
/ least compatible with : ESTP, ESFP, ENFP
ENTP (2nd function Ti) most compatible with: INTP, ISTP, INFP
/ least compatible with : ESFJ, ENFJ, ESTJ
ENFJ (2nd function Ni) most compatible with: INFJ, INTJ, ISFJ
/ least compatible with : ESTP, ESFP, ENTP
ENFP (2nd function Fi) most compatible with: INFP, ISFP, INTP
/ least compatible with : ESTJ, ENTJ,ESFJ
ESTJ (2nd function Si) most compatible with: ISTJ, ISFJ, INTJ
/ least compatible with : ENTP, ENFP, ESFP
ESTP (2nd function Ti) most compatible with: ISTP, INTP, ISFP
/ least compatible with : ESFJ, ENFJ, ENTJ
ESFJ (2nd function Si) most compatible with: ISTJ, ISFJ, INFJ
/ least compatible with : ENTP, ENFP, ESTP
ESFP (2nd function Fi) most compatible with: ISFP, INFP, ISTP
/ least compatible with : ESTJ, ENTJ, ENFJ
INTJ (2nd function Te) most compatible with: ENTJ, ESTJ, ENFJ
/ least compatible with : ISFP, INFP, ISTP
INTP (2nd function Ne) most compatible with: ENTP, ENFP, ESTP
/ least compatible with : ISTJ, ISFJ, INFJ
INFJ (2nd function Fe) most compatible with: ENFJ, ESFJ, ENTJ
/ least compatible with : INTP, ISTP, ISFP
INFP (2nd function Ne) most compatible with: ENFP, ENTP, ESFP
/ least compatible with : ISTJ, ISFJ, INTJ
ISTJ (2nd function Te) most compatible with: ENTJ, ESTJ, ESFJ
/ least compatible with : INFP, ISFP, INTP
ISTP (2nd function Se) most compatible with: ESTP, ESFP, ENTP
/ least compatible with : INTJ, INFJ, ISFJ
ISFJ (2nd function Fe) most compatible with: ENFJ, ESFJ, ESTJ
/ least compatible with : INTP, ISTP, INFP
ISFP (2nd function Se) most compatible with: ESTP, ESFP, ENFP
/ least compatible with : INTJ, INFJ, ISTJ
For more detailed info on Myers Briggs compatibility, here are some good books you can try:
Just Your Type: Create the Relationship You've Always Wanted Using the Secrets of Personality Type
Lovetypes: Discover Your Romantic Style And Find Your Soul Mate
16 Ways to Love Your Lover
Wired for Conflict: The Role of Personality in Resolving Differences
Marriage Types
The Intimacy Factor: How Your Personality and Your Past Affect Your Ability to Love and be Loved
Intimacy and Type: A Practical Guide for Improving Relationships for Couples and Counselors
Comments
To provide an example, I believe that the actual opposite of the ENFP is the ESFP/ESTP because the idealist and artisan values (especially the extroverted artisan) seem opposed. By contrast, I have many close ISTJ friends and believe that there is a good deal of overlap between the guardian values (well-being of others) and idealist values (even though the opposite communication styles may be challenging at times...)
Also, I have a tendency to think that my experience has something to do with the J/P preference and amount of grey present in the thinking style. Even though the INTJ is often cited as the ideal mate for the ENFP, I find this difficult to understand b/c find the INTJ thinking style too black and white for my all-grey-all-the-time thinking style. I especially find that the extroverted judging more black-and-white thinking style is the opposite of my extroverted perceiving thinking style. In my experience, INTPs seem to be one of the only types that think in as much grey as the ENFP (as another extraverted intuitive type?) Just now I found one blog that mentions something that might be related to my J/P thoughts (i.e. that EP is the opposite of EJ) - "Extroverted Perception is the radically right-brained faculty in the sense that Leanor Thomson has used the term, and Extroverted Judgment the radical left-brained faculty."
I usually have a hard time with the T types because they limit my ideas by pointing out the flaws in them, thus leaving me frustrated. Not to say I don't befriend them, but I do have a harder time getting romantically involved with those types.
I find that the extroversion on both sides is powerful in a social setting..I think it would be strange for one of us to be introverted...I would be interested to hear what others say though about these sorts of 'odd' combinations.
However, I have never been attracted to extraverts in romantic relationships. I wonder how much this has to do with nurture (rather than nature) since both my parents are extraverted (Father ENFP - Mother ESFJ).
Then again, it may just be a great value system and commitment to relationship. I am the oldest of 8 kids, and our family has nine of the sixteen types, but we are all really close thanks to Mom and Dad's rearing... accept the other person for who they are and celebrate the differences God has given you.
BTW, I am INTJ. The most humorous contrast in our family was our two older boys, who looked identical and were 16 months apart. ISTJ and ENFP. No kidding. And these guys shared a room all the way through high school...
I honestly think that I am such a strong-willed person that I need my equally strong-willed INTP to balance me out and also to push back, when I push, because I do push others, as well as myself hard. I respect that he won't tolerate my bad behavior. He has enough balls to stand up to me, lol!
Our I/E difference does cause some difficulty; however, since our MBTI types are independent by nature, I go out to see friends and he happily stays at home.
I would highly recommend reading "Just Your Type: Create the Relationship You've Always Wanted Using the Secrets of Personality Type " by Paul and Barbarer Tieger. It gives insights into the pros and cons of all the possible pairings between the 16 types.
Aneil Mishra
I.e I always come back as INFJ as the type of values I am looking for in people. Completing yourself is looking for what's missing and if they have it.
Insane ENFP
I've read the description of an ENFP in love and it actually scares me... ENFP's aren't notorious for making relationships last... Now I'm worried about my relationship, despite the fact we are supposedly compatible!
But in my experience, it does take effort. I am a card carrying, bonified ENFP and my husband of 15 years is an ISTJ.
Polar opposites. We do clash but at the same time, we balance each other out too. One main area that I can give you an example of is he handles the money, budget and finances. He gives me an allowance and I buy the stuff that make our life comfortable (like decorations for the house or a desert for dinner) while he buys the stuff that makes our life work (light bulbs and ground beef).
I think you have to take into consideration life experiences as well and no strict personality test can do that so no method of compatibility will be 100% accurate. My ISTJ husband had a very gentle, traditional upbringing which softens his rigidness. I had a rather dysfunctional life as a child and teen in which I had to depend on myself and even move out on my own by the age of 15. This brought an air of responsibility to my frivolous nature.
So while our strongest base impulses are true to our personality type, because of our formative life experiences, we can appreciate the other side of things even though it takes work.
The result for us has been not perfect harmony by any means but balance. So 17 years of being together, 15 of that in marriage later, we are still going strong!
My boyfriend and I have only been together for a few weeks, but thus far I can tell it's the healthiest and best relationship I've ever been with. He is ENFJ--therefore, very similar to me, but with a J's decisiveness to balance out P.
On the flip side, while I have many friends and family members who are Ss, they are the ones I tend to have the most trouble communicating and relating. My father and one of my good friends are ISTJs (my exact opposite) and we have trouble just 'getting' each other. I love my dad, and my friend, but I can't ever imagine being in a romantic relationship with someone of that type. My other closest 'S' is a ESFJ.
My mother and father have been married for 30 years in a couple months. He's an ISTJ and she's an ENFJ. My best friends parents just celebrated 36 years, and they too only share one of the same. I thought there might be something in that. My sister and her boyfriend have been together for four and a half years and on the verge of being engaged and he's an ENFP and she's an INTJ. My best friend is also an INTJ.
Just thought I'd throw my personal observations in the mix.
Right now, I've been dating a ENFJ for three years, and it's actually been going splendidly. His F component is not strong, and he's helped me open up to people a little more (I still can't be as social as him, especially for long periods of time. He loves people.). He's romantic, but not to a fault, and the subtleties of his love actually pique my interest. I don't want visions of grandeur, thank you very much. Unexpectedly, I've completely fallen for him, and I'm not really sure what to do about it!! XD
It is interesting that there is no distinction between workplace interactions and personal relationship interactions. The two are very different. In workplace interactions you want similar people to minimize conflict and get the work out efficiently. Of course, there is a lot of money in the deal for M-B consultants who correctly preach the value of diversity even though diversity often interferes with productivity.
Elsewhere on this blog Kiersey’s ideas of ‘opposites attract’ is trivialized as infatuation. In my rather extensive experience Kiersey is actually right that complementary personalities build more rewarding relationship bonds than do congruent personalities. Kiersey has written well over 100 pages on the types that bond the strongest at the personal level. Interestingly, his very verbose treatment of the topic can be reduced to a single sentence, which is: The strongest relationship bonding occurs between two people having all four M-B letters different, and in the next strongest bonding the couple shares only the second letter.
I would hope that there is a way to somehow filter the gold from the rubbish in this area. The problem of course is that it can be very difficult to tell which is which.
My relationship with him is difficult, but there does seem to be a tie. The conflicts that we face are my idealism and over sensitivity and his way of expressing his interest, by teasing me. Although it may seem that we may not be meant for one another and I do feel that I can agree at times, I believe that if two people really do chose to love one another, then in the end the relationship can be worked at if given effort on both sides.
I am an INTJ, and I find I do best with Introverts. I prefer one-on-one interaction, where both individuals can really focus on each other--in my opinion, a relationship that's not a deep one isn't a relationship worth having. I also find that my most rewarding relationships have been with Ns of all kinds. I enjoy the internal, theoretical knowledge that the Ns I've met all have. To me, the best kind of relationship is one where you can use your minds together, and I've never been disappointed by an N in this department.
My most fulfilling relationships are with an INFJ, an ENFJ, and an INTP (though I also have some very good ENFP friends). My INFJ is wordly, intelligent, extremely intuitive, and supportive. We differ in our views of the word (i.e., the goodness of humanity, hope, mercy vs. justice, etc.), but we are wonderful matches for each other because we have such a strong ability to care about each other. My ENFJ is always on the move--which is hard for me, being very introverted--but challenges me to step outside of my comfort zone; this ENFJ is personable, witty, and very much on my wavelength (he has the tendency to read my mind on occasion).
Most people would think that an INTJ and an INTP may not mesh well together, as they're so similar, but the INTP I know fits so well with me as a person, it's almost scary. The fact that our types are so similar is a boon to our friendship. My INTP is breezy, intellectual, theoretical, and deeply complex. We spin these wild theories together; we can delve deep into each other's minds and find common streams running through each. I have never found someone outside of my family who I connect with on such an intricate level before. My relationship with this INTP is one of the most important and rewarding of my life.
Lastly, I tend not to get along with S types. I find S types to be too concrete for my taste. I guess it's my own stubbornness; several times when I've come into contact with S types we end up butting heads. I get bogged down by little details, but S types seem to relish them. I guess have a hard time understanding and meeting S types in the middle.
It is very nice to see all the professional suggestions for compatiblity on ONE site!
Cannot stand 'feelers' (F), way too irrational and not practical at all.
(P)- not gonna work for me either - I like planning ahead of time and the 'last minute' thing is a deal breaker for me.
Strongly prefer (N) over (S) People with no (N) are hard to communicate with, they are not able to read between lines and seem too flat in communication. Hard to explain.
Now I am in a relationship with someone who turned out to be the same type as me. We have been together for a few years. I don't think being with your clone would be a good thing, since that would mean you have the same weaknesses, and neither of you can cover for them. But my partner and I aren't really the same, we just agree on important things in life.
Rule #2: Socionics Model B by Alexander Bukalov.
Unfortunately I'm too exhausted today to write a wall of text about this. If I weren't busy dealing with the ten million disasters of my life, I might invest some time, energy, and money into creating a device that would physically scan your brainwaves, like an EEG, and determine your personality type. It must be 100% accurate, the first time, every time, for every person, with zero mistakes. I'm sick of all the tests that exist with their unforgivably huge inaccuracy rates. Oh well, that's all the wall of text I have in me today.
The article missed INFJ with ENFP. We get along really well after getting better at third and fourth functions when living together. The beginning period is the struggle. An INFJ can get frustrated with an ENFP about finances/responsibilities at first they might seem flakey. ENFP's need clear/direct communication and if a healthy ENFP they do try and improve.
I would even live with an ENFP long term. Both respects need for space. An ENFP(Cat like) likes being alone but having a person around. When they tire of one to one they do their own thing... this works well for an INFJ. If an ENFP is over talking, just put on a movie or chill out. ENFP's(Independent Streak) need their space just as much as the INFJ. INFJ's are the most sociable of introverts/ ENFP the least extroverted. It works. The Ni dominant function makes us click.
I'm also very skeptical of this popular idea that people need complementary partners to "complete" them. Actual psychological studies show that it's similarity, not complementarity, that leads to a more satisfying, long-lasting relationship. Some people talk as if certain types, such as NPs, would shrivel up and die without a sensor to take care of us, which is nonsense. Every type is fully capable of "adulting," and if not, that person has a problem that requires a psychotherapist, not a spouse. I may not be as fashionable as an ESFP or as good a cook as an ISFJ, but I don't need someone else to dress me and make my food, thanks. I'd rather have a companion I really connect with than someone who lays out my clothes for me every morning and puts my breakfast on the table as if I were an infant.